Remembering members of the Williston Northampton community

Elizabeth (Howkins) Holmes ’48

Elizabeth (Betsy) H. Holmes died at age 93 on Saturday, March 2nd. She was born in Baltimore, and was preceded by four older brothers: Gere, Jack, Tom and Tono. She leaves a sister, Mary Ball Howkins, a resident of Dighton, Massachusetts, and Mary Ball’s daughter, Thea Howkins Knotts, of San Pablo, California.

Betsy, born in 1930, was an early professional woman. On the tails of WWII, she worked for Radio Free Europe, an informational arm of the CIA. She subsequently worked as an editor for a president of Northeastern University, Asa Smallidge Knowles, and then as writer and editor, in a husband and wife team, of a grammar workbook series for D C Heath and Company publisher.

She was a Zen Buddhist by belief. Betsy and her husband, a Zen teacher and English professor, decorated their winter holiday tree with tiny buddhas to celebrate the season.

Betsy and her husband lived in Hendersonville for many decades, writing and walking miles upon miles, up and down mountains, daily. You may have encountered them on your walks.

L. Bradford Milne ’53

Brad Milne passed away at the age of 91 on June 18,2024. He was the beloved partner of Jean Milne. Son of Bradford and Ruth Milne, he was born January 17th, 1933 in Melrose MA.

Brad shared a great love for the outdoors with his family on camping trips, ski vacations, and many years of boating on the Jessi James.

Brad was a veteran of the Korean War and longtime supporter of veteran programs. He went on to become the Chief of Medical Media at the Boston VA Hospital for over 40 years.

Brad is survived by his loving wife Jean Milne. He was a devoted father to his three sons, Dana Milne and his wife Elizabeth Milne and son Ashton Milne, Thomas Milne, and James Milne and his wife Sue Milne; their sons Christopher Milne & wife Cory Milne & their daughter Camryn Milne, Jonathan Milne. His three step children; David Major, Dana Major and wife Peggy Roth Major, and Kimberly Linde and husband Matthew, daughter Jessica Collier- Major and Dylan Linde. Brad was an integral part to the family and was surrounded by friends and family who always have a funny “Brad” story to share.

A memorial service will follow for a celebration of Brad’s life. In lieu of flowers the family has asked that donations be made to Wounded Warriors Project, Disabled American Veterans, or the VA Hospital.

Stanley M. Seligson ’52

Stanley M. Seligson, of Westport, CT, peacefully passed away at his home at the age of 90 on September 5, 2024, surrounded by his family. He is survived by his loving wife of over 50 years, Carole Seligson, and his two children, Shana Seligson and Todd Seligson. He is also survived by his sister, Suzanne Serlin, and Mary Hill.
Stanley was a successful entrepreneur, real estate developer, and a compassionate and dedicated individual who touched the lives of many. Born in Norwalk, CT in 1933 to the late Emmanuel Seligson and May (Harris) Seligson, Stanley attended Norwalk schools, the Williston Northampton School, and went on to attend the University of Connecticut.
Following his father’s untimely passing in 1953, Stanley assumed responsibility for the family’s wholesale business, S&S Tobacco. He grew the original company into one of the largest distributors of candy, tobacco, vending, and arcade machines in the Northeast. In 1979, Stanley formed Seligson Properties and has since led the company to become a dynamic, forward-thinking real estate firm that has been involved with the investment in, and the development, management and construction of nearly three-million square feet. He was the driving force behind many key developments in Norwalk, including several projects the Connecticut Post said helped “transform Norwalk into a destination”. Stanley was extremely dedicated to his hometown and was proud to support his community. He served as an advisor and board member to many institutions including the Greater Norwalk Chamber of Commerce, The Norwalk YMCA, The Maritime Aquarium, Lockwood-Mathews Mansion Museum, and many others.
Stanley was fortunate to receive numerous awards throughout his career, including Industry Man of the Year from the Anti-Defamation League, Distributor of the Year from Philip Morris, and many accolades for his successful real estate projects. Stanley Seligson was a true gentleman, and prided himself on living his life with character, integrity, and class. He possessed a natural charisma that filled any room, and his quick-wit and terrific sense of humor led him to make connections and friendships wherever he went. Stanley had a passion for travel and enjoyed many of the finer things in life, but always remained down-to-earth. He equally valued the simple pleasures found at his homes in both Connecticut and Florida. Whether enjoying a quiet family evening at home or a fun night out with friends, Stanley cherished these moments. Stanley was an avid golfer and he enjoyed learning from some of the games’ best instructors and having the chance to experience playing at many renowned courses. He was a founding member of Rolling Hills Country Club (Wilton, CT), and was also a member of Birchwood Country Club (Westport, CT), Burning Tree Club (Bethesda, MD), Trump International Golf Club (West Palm Beach, FL), and The Mar-a-Lago Club (Palm Beach, FL).
Stanley will be remembered as a visionary business leader, an accomplished entrepreneur, and as a mentor and friend to many, but above all else, he will be remembered as a devoted husband and father, and someone who prided himself on taking care of those closest to him.
A funeral service will be held at 11:00am on Wednesday, September 11, 2024, at Temple Israel (14 Coleytown Rd., Westport, CT), with a lunch at 2:00pm at Rolling Hills Country Club (333 Hurlbutt St., Wilton, CT). At the family’s request, the burial will be private. In lieu of flowers, please send donations in memory of Stanley M. Seligson to Shirley Ryan AbilityLab (Intensive Aphasia Program): sralab.org/ give-now or Smilow Cancer Hospital of Yale New Haven Health: givetoynhh.org/ways- to-give/make-a-tribute-gift/.

David Barnes Boffey ’63

David Barnes Boffey, of White River Junction, Vermont, passed away peacefully on August 19, 2024, concluding his 79-year journey back into the light. He was a courageous, helpful and loving person.

Barnes was born on July 16, 1945, to David and Nancy Boffey. He grew up in Pleasantville, New York, before moving with his family to Belvedere, California, at age 11. Camp Lanakila in Fairlee, Vermont, became his beloved home away from home beginning in 1953.

At Middlebury College, he majored in drama and played on the football team. The 6-foot-8 defensive lineman tried out for the Pittsburgh Steelers following his 1967 graduation knowing it was a long shot. Denied a roster spot, Barnes hung up his cleats and taught elementary school for two years. Then came graduate school at the University of Massachusetts where he earned both a Masters and Doctoral degree in education. He taught at the University of Cincinnati before returning to Vermont and leading the Upper Valley Teacher Training Program (now UVEI). He became an adjunct professor at Dartmouth College, practiced counseling, and worked at Lanakila for many years including 24 years as director.

Barnes’ counseling philosophy focused on internal control theory. He asked those he was counseling both about what they wanted and what kind of person they wanted to be. The premise was that people can affect their feelings and physiology with the actions and thoughts they employ. The external world provides constant information and individuals get to decide how to interpret it. Imparting these concepts was central to Barnes’ life’s work, which helped many clients, friends and camp staffers.

He also worked as a consultant, primarily around the topic of non-coercive discipline in schools. As an author, he penned three books (Reinventing Yourself, My Gift in Return and Climb on Simon), and collaborated on adapting the Velveteen Rabbit into a musical. He also volunteered as a Cub Scouts leader, taught classes for parents of adults and was an active member of the local recovery community. He had a passion for ebiking, which he enjoyed throughout his final days.

Barnes will be missed tremendously by his two sons, David and Adam, his former wife, Sharon, and grandson, Jackson. He is also survived by his brother, Peter, sisters-in-law, Ophira and Michelle and nephews, Mercer and David. Barnes was predeceased by his brother, Daniel.

A memorial service will be held at the Church of Christ at Dartmouth, 40 College Street, Hanover, NH, on Saturday, September 7 at 3 pm. Please note there will also be a Celebration of Life at the Hulbert Outdoor Center in Fairlee, Vt. over Memorial Day Weekend, 2025.

Judith (Mason) Dittrich ’55

Judith (Mason) Dittrich, 87, of Worcester, PA, passed away Saturday May 25, 2024, at Meadowood at Worcester. She was the beloved wife of the late Robert E. Dittrich.

Born March 25, 1937, in Rahway, NJ, she was a daughter of the late Ralph and Evelyn (Jackson) Mason.

Judi was known for her caring nature and wicked sense of humor. Family was always her top priority! When she wasn’t focused on her kids and grandkids, she loved reading, going to the movies, traveling, and eating – especially her love for chocolate. Her happy place was at the beach, and she was also involved with her church community and volunteered in her younger years.

She is survived by her children, Jackie Dittrich of Ormond Beach, FL, Tracy Wilcox of Beachwood, NJ, Gunnar Dittrich and his wife, Kay, of Winchester, KY, Ralph Dittrich and his wife, Carolyn, of Blue Bell, PA, Rob Dittrich of Egg Harbor, NJ, and Gretchen Dittrich and her husband, Frank Polek, of Eagleville, PA; ten grandchildren and many nieces and nephews.

In addition to her husband, she was predeceased by her siblings, Baird Mason, Barbara Hamrick, and Lynn Shirley.

Services will be held privately for the family. Contributions may be made in her memory to the Wish of a Lifetime at www.wishofalifetime.org.

Carl L. Lo Conte ’50

Mr. Carl L. Lo Conte, a longtime resident of Medford, MA and beloved husband of Bridget A. (Servello) Lo Conte, passed away in Winchester on Saturday afternoon, October 28, 2023. He was 90 years old.

Born in Boston, Massachusetts on November 16, 1932, he was the beloved son of the late Louis and Jacqueline (Lissack) LoConte. Mr. Lo Conte was a retired Manager for his family business, for many years.

In his spare time, Carl enjoyed routing for all of the sports teams, traveling with his family, especially with his son, Christopher and was an avid reader. He will be dearly missed.

Besides his wife, Bridget, he is survived by his loving children; Carl L. Lo Conte, Jr. of Stoneham, Christopher L. Lo Conte of Boston and Carla F. Lo Conte of Winchester, loving grandchildren, whom he especially enjoyed sharing in their accomplishments; Luca and Natasha Botis of Winchester. He is also survived by his grandson; Carl Lo Conte of Michigan and granddaughter; Jenna Raistrick of New Hampshire, two great-grandchildren and several nieces and nephews. He was also the father-in-law of the late Patricia Lo Conte.

Funeral services were privately held.

Robert Stilson ’59

Robert (Bob) M. Stilson, 82, a longtime resident of Fairfield, died on Wednesday, July 17, 2024, at Maplewood of Southport. He was the son of the late Minott A. O. Stilson and Mary Edith Williams Stilson.

Bob attended Williston Academy in Easthampton, MA, graduating in 1959, and spent a year at Kings College, England, as part of the English Speaking Union Exchange Program. He earned his B.S in Industrial Administration from Yale University in 1964 and an MBA from the University of Bridgeport in 1975. After graduating from Yale, Bob joined the US Navy in 1964 – 1967, serving as an operations officer on board a coastal minesweeper, MCS 290 Gannet, out of Sasebo, Japan, and as a Communications Officer in Norfolk, VA.

After the Navy, Bob joined Coopers & Lybrand in New Haven as an auditor, obtaining his CPA in 1972. His earlier employment consisted as an assistant production control manager at Risdon Manufacturing, Waterbury, controller for Broadstreet Communications, Hamden, controller for Turnkey Systems, Norwalk, and controller of Paper Sales involved in paper merchandising, converting, and warehousing. He joined Milton H. Friedberg Smith, CPAs, in Bridgeport as an audit manager in 1978. After a partnership with Stern & Stern CPAs, in 1982, Bob became Treasurer/Controller for Nutmeg Financial in Norwalk until 1985, when he joined Montrose Accounting Company, New York, NY, serving as Director of Finance/Controller until his retirement in 2010.

Bob also practiced part-time as a sole CPA, servicing Montrose Accounting clients who needed audit review or compilation services. He prepared tax returns and performed bookkeeping services until 2015.

His main volunteer activities included serving as Treasurer for Friends of Christ in India (a non-profit supporting programs in children’s education and care for the sick and elderly in India), VITA and AARP volunteer tax preparer assistance programs, Vice Chairman of Fairfield’s Solid Waste & Recycling Commission, WestBridge Inc. (a non-profit performing repairs to homes of low-income families and inner-city churches), SCORE mentor, and as a land steward for the Aspetuck Land Trust. Past involvements include being Treasurer of Greenfield Hill Congregational Church, Habitat for Humanity of Greater Bridgeport, and Community Sailing of Fairfield. He also served as an elected member of Fairfield’s Representative Town Meeting and its Board of Finance. His passions were sailing and auditing courses at Fairfield University as part of the Life Long Learners program.

Bob was a loving and caring husband, father, grandfather, and friend. He will be missed by his wife of 54 years, Susanne Whitaker Stilson; daughter, Laura Stoltenberg (Scott Stoltenberg), of Wayzata, MN; son, David Stilson, of Fairfield; and grandchildren, Gavin Johnson, Tanner Stoltenberg, and Emery Stotlenberg, of Wayzata, MN. He was the brother of Ann Kidder, of Auburn, AL.

Bob was devoted to helping and serving others – whether it was to his family, work associates, friends, community, or church.

Dorothy Annika Smith ’15

March 1, 1996 – July 8, 2024

Photos and Memory Wall Shared by Annika’s Family

Dorothy Annika Smith, 28, died on July 8, 2024, in Berkeley, California. Annika was born on March 1, 1996, in Little Rock, Arkansas. She is survived by her mother, MegAnn Mara-Smith of Hailey, Idaho; her father, Steven “Bo” Smith of Berkeley; her brother, Hanson Smith of San Marcos, California; her partner, Ian Dyckes of Berkeley; and her demonic cat Nimbus.

Annika was raised near Russellville, Arkansas and attended St. John’s Catholic School and Russellville Middle School. She graduated from the Williston Northampton School in Massachusetts in 2015. Annika attended Quest University in Squamish, BC, Canada and transferred to Clemson University where she received her B.S. in Animal and Veterinary Sciences. She earned her Master’s of Public Health from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill. 

Annika started as an Assistant Biosafety Officer at the University of California, Berkeley in the summer of 2022. She brought enthusiasm to her work and was excited to be growing in a career she found fulfilling. Annika was diagnosed with sinonasal cancer in October 2023.

Annika was known for being inquisitive and adventurous. She loved backpacking in remote, beautiful places. Hard work, both physical and intellectual, was something that Annika valued. She worked as a veterinary assistant during college and spent a summer employed on a musk ox farm in Palmer, Alaska. She was a committed scientist and a voracious reader. During her battle with cancer, she meticulously researched her treatment options and fought the disease with grace and bravery.

Gilbert B. Dillard III ’76

February 4, 1968 – July 7, 2024

Gilbert Booker Dillard III, a native of Springfield, MA was born February 4, 1958, at 5:14pm. He was the first and oldest son of Opal Jean Gray and Gilbert Booker Dillard Jr., two first generation college students who met and fell in love at Central State University in Wilberforce, OH. Gilbert was born in Newburgh, NY and spent the first few years of his life in Oklahoma before his family migrated to Massachusetts for work, income, education and to live the American dream. Gilbert was raised in Western MA but spent most summers during his youth in Oklahoma assisting grandparents and great grandparents with siblings and cousins. Thanksgiving dinners were spent with family in Newburgh, New York.

Most who knew Gilbert would describe him as charismatic and smart. He was known for having intellectual and stimulating conversations with family and friends who recognized his gifted brilliance. He graduated from Williston Northampton School in Easthampton, MA and briefly attended Quinnipiac University in Hamden, CT before embarking on military service with the United States Army. In January 1977 Gilbert enlisted in the armed services as an Army Nuclear Weapons Maintenance Specialist 55G MOS and was stationed in Germany with 9th Ordinance Company, Miesau Army Depot, West Germany. As part of the NATO Defense under the command of the late General Colin Powell, former United States Secretary of State, he excelled and performed his duty to his country with honor until May 1984.

Gilbert served as an operational clerk maintaining stock, records, accounts and reports on nuclear materials, repairs and inspections of weapons. His knowledge of logistics, safety and compliance was consistently recognized and acknowledged during his tenure until his honorable discharge in 1984.

Gilbert Booker Dillard III compassionately served God, Country, Family and Community. After his military service he worked in Finance as a mortgage loan officer for several Maryland based companies. He ultimately relocated back to Springfield, MA and volunteered for projects with University of Massachusetts Medical School and Bay State Health. He was loved by many and is survived by daughters Gennea and Tianna, mother Opal Dillard, sisters Bonita and Dorothy, brothers Goren ’80 and Gravin. He will certainly be missed.

Remembering members of the Williston Northampton community